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Staying Spiritual When We’re Offended

August 29, 2016

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      I’m allergic to drama.  Who’s with me?  I don’t enjoy being offended, hurt, or angry.  Those feelings interrupt my usual serenity and my productivity.  They yank me sharply out of my Peace Within.  I like to be enjoying life, steaming along in a positive direction, doing Go(o)d, meeting deadlines, mixing happily with good people, and relaxing in peace between.  Recently, I’ve had a few opportunities to think about offense.
      When someone royally offends you, aren’t your feelings hurt and your body tense?  Maybe you have trouble thinking of anything else-how could they DO this to you?   Keeping your mind on your work, your relationships, or your in-joy-meant-all tough when you’ve been touched by a drama.  Maybe your attention is repeatedly dragged off-track to the person or situation that caused the drama.  Does this sound like fun?  No.  Is there any benefit to anyone in someone feeling offended?  Um, no.
      So what can we, as spiritual and Christian people, do when we feel offended?  Say, someone who is often jealous and critical aims their blame-beam at you.  They are now criticizing the way you said something you thought was endearing.  You know you were kind, and this person is enjoying creating gossip and making you look bad, over something that never happened.  Aside from hurting you, the person is being damaging to the group/church/company.  Consider these steps:
  1.       Pray.  Ask for guidance as to whether to respond to the person at all.
  2.        Pray.  Pray for the person who needs this kind of internal and external drama.
  3.       Remember.  This person’s perception is their drama, and with this type, responding at all may throw gasoline on the fire.
  4.       Act “as if”.  Act as if the person never aimed their blame-beam at you, as if it never happened.  You can re-write your emotions with this technique.
  5.       Pray.  Ask God whether perhaps this is a signal that you don’t need to circulate with this person anymore. Especially if this is something that the person keeps doing.  You are not their only target.  Sometimes we are the ball being hit by the flipper on God’s pinball board.  Sometimes we are being shown what to turn our backs to.
  6.       Keep your heart light.  Don’t let yourself sink into the disorderly person’s drama.  Keep bringing your focus back to anything positive, or simply to God.
      The Bible offers this:
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
~ James 3:16 (NIV)   
 
      A person who has Peace Within does not need to create inflammatory conversation: criticism or gossip.  Feel sorry for the person in disorder.  Pray for the Highest and Best for them.  You may be amazed at how the person shifts over the next few weeks, if you do not sink into being offended, but continue to pray for them.
      And remember, God is watching how you handle this.  Every time you think of this offense, choose not to be offended.  Rise above.  Reset your thoughts as many times as you need to.  And keep in mind,
It is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.
~ Prov 19:11 (NIV) 
      Life often gives us opportunities to get offended.  But we can choose how much we want to buy into taking in the hurt. With practice, it will take you less and less time and effort to get back to your Peace Within.  So practice.  And pray.  And that’s Upbeat Spiritual Living!

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The Most Important Moment is Now

August 17, 2016

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Are you living in the most important moment?  It’s NOW.  In Upbeat Spiritual Livingsm, we go for the best possible alignment between our mental and physical processes, our soul and our emotional ups and downs.  Every day we make thousands of tiny and larger decisions about how to live.

But do we know WHEN to live?   Think about it.  You can’t live in the future, because that hasn’t arrived yet.  The future consists of outcomes we can guess about, together with whatever we are cocreating with the Divine.  But we can’t live there.

We can’t live in the past either, although that’s a popular turn of phrase.  Many dwell on the past, some brooding deeply and analyzing endlessly, going over and over how they “coulda and shoulda and didna”.  Many are keeping endless scorecards of those who did them wrong and what they should have said and done to exact a balance, if not revenge.  Too many are having long conversations about how people treated them unfairly, with callous or even hateful intent.  They “live in the past”.  But all that has already happened, so there is little you can do about it without your time machine.  And if we did all have time machines, we wouldn’t have time to live our actual current lives, because we would be so busy going back to see about that onetime boyfriend and tell off that abusive boss.

So if we can’t live in the future or the past, where and when can we live? NOW.  There is a second immediately before you that is available for your consciousness and your choices: your living.  You can only live in this moment, this present moment, this now.  And by the time you read THIS word, that NOW moment I just mentioned is gone.  Yes, NOW is the only moment when we can actually live.

I first saw this concept when reading an early book by the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones.  He argued that you can’t be stressed if you concentrate on the here and now.  In traffic, for example, he argued we should concentrate only on the cars, the trees, the sounds in and around the traffic.  How can you obsess about your budget or your child’s health issue when you are firmly in the driver’s seat of your thoughts?  This concept puts you in charge of your mind.

Jesus, in Matthew 6:34 (NIV), says

34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

So what would it be like if you stayed more in the NOW?  Try it for a day.  When you find yourself sliding into worry about the past or future, simply exhale to your toes and come back to the present.  You’ll be more relaxed and relating differently, with your loved ones, with God, and with your lists.  Let me know what shifts you notice.  Keep practicing.  And now you’re in Upbeat Spiritual Livingsm!


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Save Room for Positive Thoughts

August 7, 2016

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What would your life be like, if you were always in Upbeat Spiritual Livingsm?  Scientists estimate that the human brain has about 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. It has also been estimated that about 80 percent of our thoughts are negative.  Yikes!  So what’s your source for much of what you think about?   If you listen to the television news, you will get information that is slanted to be as attention-grabbing as possible.  Those items will be anchored in violence, sex, and whatever horrifies you.  Some news shows even close their broadcasts with something redeeming, cute, loveable: a rescue animal story or a pay-it-forward segment.  They do this because they know that you would grow weary if they never gave you anything but accidents, tragedies, rip-off stories, financial crash items, and outrageous comments by public figures.

Is this really what you want to spend your thousands of thoughts per hour on?   Your thoughts embody.  Negative thoughts are weakening and exhausting. In Chinese medicine, it is known that negative thoughts and feelings lodge in specific parts of the body and drain your health.  Does the base of your shoulder blade hurt?  Then you have frustration.   Illness and negative thinking are not God’s will for us.  Rather, as 2 Timothy 1:7 says:

God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

  Some translations say “self control”, rather than “sound mind”.  Consider, who can note and control your thoughts?  You are the gatekeeper!  You decide what you feed your mind.  Try cutting back on the news you watch and notice if your body, mind, heart, and spirit feel different.  Notice whether your thinking is clearer and perhaps you can concentrate better.  Also, think of the people you spend time with: are some of them grousers?  All their statements of complaint are getting into your mind.  Consider seeing them half as often, and notice how much lighter you feel.   When we make room in our psyches by feeding ourselves fewer negative thoughts, we have more room for positive thoughts.  We have more room for puppies, for loved ones, for beautiful scenery, for light comedy, for novels, even for God.  Psalm 103:5 points out that we get filled with the Go(o)d and become stronger, when we spend time with God:  

[He] satisfies your years with good things, so that your youth is renewed like the eagle.

  Isaiah 40:31 also talks about strength:

Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles, they will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.

  Do you want to have a happy, well, and energized life?  Then save room for positive thoughts and notice how different your body, mind, heart, and spirit feel.  And that’s Upbeat Spiritual Living!

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Peace Within: What Would Yours Feel Like?

December 2, 2015

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We are in a noisy time in the history of the World.  There has never been a more important time for people to seek personal serenity.  I call this Peace Within.  What would our personal serenity feel like?  And what would inspire it? The following is from my book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core.

 

Sometimes we see a person who is clearly in a state of (transcendent) personal peace, and we somehow get a transfer effect, feeling more peaceful ourselves.  On returning from an engineering conference one year, I was dashing through the Pittsburgh airport, feeling very stressed, when I was absolutely riveted by a person going by.  She was a nun, wearing a traditional habit. She was walking peacefully through the terminal, wearing an etheric expression of utter happy calm.  Her slight smile reminded me of the ageless magnetism of DaVinci’s Mona Lisa.  I had to stare as she passed.  Her unreasonable peace and calm translated into my body and mind.  I was changed by her.  Now, years later, every time I think of that nun, my mind and body re-set, and I feel tension and stress leave me.

 

Some experiences can give us a profound shift into peace within.  Perhaps 10 years ago, I was in a small town in Colorado for Christmas.  Framed by a stunning view of the Rockies, many extremely tall, majestic pine trees surrounded our historic hotel.  Late Christmas Eve, fresh snow began to fall.  Having much on my mind, I bundled up to go walk among the dancing flakes.  I had not been out in the night air for more than two minutes before my cares and worries of the last year began to seem completely insignificant.  Soon, I couldn’t even think what they had been.  Now walking in an inch of new snow, I looked up through the white-laden tree branches and deeply inhaled the sweet winter air.  I felt surrounded by and filled with the Peace That Passes All Understanding.  I felt the Divine Presence.  I experienced  a deeper level of peace within than I had felt in many years.  When I finally stepped back into the hotel, I realized I had been transformed.  Years later, still, just recalling that walk vividly brings back the experience and the utter serenity.

 

Would you like to be experiencing more inner calm or serenity?  What images, sounds, or experiences have you had that have taken you to greater calm?  Why not make a commitment to yourself, now, to nurture your inner quiet each day?  The more you cultivate your Peace Within, the more benefits you will reap.  It’s up to you.

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Kebba Buckley Button is an ordained minister whose passion is helping people find their Peace Within. She also stress management expert and has a natural healing practice. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), and Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. Both that book and Peace Within are available through her office.  Just email books@kebba.com. 

 

 

How is God Answering Your Prayers?

October 15, 2015

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Sometimes, we pray for help, and help comes in ways we don’t recognize.  Two days ago, my husband lost a set of keys.  I prayed, from the twin convictions that God knew where the keys were—since God knows all–and that He would be pleased to help us when we asked.

 

Within a minute, my husband found the keys in a place where he had already looked a number of times. It was clear to us that God had answered our prayers, and how, and when.  However, sometimes we pray, and we’re not sure if God is working on it or planning to respond in a different way than we ever expected.  Consider this old story.

 

A man named John hears a flood is coming.  It has been raining heavily, and his house is expected to be flooded.  John prays, in faith, for God to save him and his dog.  The floodwaters reach his front door and begin to wash in.  A boat comes by, and people call to John to jump to the boat with his dog; they will save him and the dog.  John says, “No, God is going to save us!”  He and the dog go to the second floor.  John prays again for God to save them.  Another boat comes by, and people urgently call to John to jump in with his dog and be saved.  John says, “No, God is going to save us!”  Now he and the dog have to go to the roof, and John prays again for God to save them.  A helicopter appears, as if from nowhere, and a rope is lowered.  A National Guard officer shouts to John, over the sound of the blades, rain and driving wind, to take the rope and bring his dog under his arm.  John shouts back, in total faith, that God is going to save them.  Shortly, John and his dog are dripping wet in Heaven’s waiting room.  When it is their turn to meet God, God starts to ask John questions, when John, feeling betrayed, cries out in pain, “God, why did you not save us from the flood???”  God says, “My son, I sent two boats and a helicopter for both of you!”

 

When you last prayed for help, did you get a clear answer?  Or did you later realize you had what you needed, somehow?  What good information, people, reassurance, resources, boats, helicopters, and ropes has God been putting your way?  God wants to be in relationship with you, and God wants to hear from you, whether you have heard Him replying, or not.  Practice talking to God and listening for His responses.  Now you’re in Upbeat Spiritual Living!

 

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Kebba Buckley Button is an ordained minister whose passion is helping people find their Peace Within. She also stress management expert and has a natural healing practice. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), and Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. Both that book and Peace Within are available through her office.  Just email books@kebba.com. 

Are You The Same Person You Were Then?

September 22, 2015

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There have been so many changes in each of our lives.  As an adult, are you living quite differently than you were as a child?  You are probably living much more independently, making all your own decisions, and deciding on your own décor.  You probably are choosing what you eat and when, as well as what church, if any, to go to.

When I was about 12, I was at a pajama party with a dozen friends, and the mom-hostess had some very interesting games for us. Among other things, she asked us “are you the same person you were?”  Gasp!  I was thinking, “I’m only 12!”  And the question has stuck with me ever since.  What makes us “who we are”, anyway?

Many times in adulthood, I have been in conversation about nature vs. nurture, and God-given nature vs. environmental influence.  Gifted with an unusual memory, recently I was musing about something from Junior High days, and I could not remember the name of the key person in the story.  I was thrilled!  My brain let go of something!

However, then I tried to remember my motives in that Junior High story.  I did something I would now think was dumb.  Why did I do what I did?  What were my thoughts and feelings?  Well, I couldn’t remember at all.  It was like I was trying to understand someone else, not me.  I believe I am now a different person than I was then.  Even with the person I was in college days:  I cannot understand that past self or second-guess her.  The best I can say now is that the person I was then did that or said that.  I would rather be the person I am now, by far.

I recently heard Christian speaker/author Joyce Meyer talking about this phenomenon.  She said the person she was died in Christ years ago. She almost remembers that person she was, like remembering another person.  I am sure Joyce would by far rather be the person she is now.

The Bible offers this, in Isaiah 43:18-19 (NKJV):

Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old.  Behold, I will do a new thing. Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

When you have memories of acting dumb in the past, forgive your former self.   Don’t stress about it.   Be joyful at how much you have grown.  Be grateful for the new roads God is making for you in the wilderness.  Change is good.  You are good.  Give thanks.

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is an ordained minister. She also stress management expert and has a natural healing practice. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. Both that book and Peace Within are available through her office.  Just email books@kebba.com. 
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Stars and the Human Experience

August 25, 2015

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stars, stars in the Bible, inspirationThe stars have always been woven in the fabric of human experience.  In ancient times, as shepherds watched their flocks by night, they gazed for many hours at those points of light in the sky.  Some of the lights were larger than others.  Some seemed to vibrate, “twinkle”, shoot across the sky, and cluster in figures.  People were sure they saw patterns of large and small bears, a charioteer, a warrior, a swan, and other images.  They told stories of interactions among some of the constellation characters.  The Greeks and Romans believed in gods who inhabited the skies and interacted with love, jealousy, and competition.  Did those beliefs cause them to see stories in the night skies, or did the night skies inspire the stories of Gods in the daytime skies?

At least as early as the Biblical King David’s time—and he ruled from 1010 to 970 BCE—people imagined stars had points, and they used symbols to represent stars in jewelry and other adornments.  King David is said to have owned a magic shield that protected him from enemies. Emblazoned with a 6-point star, it was known as the Mogen David, or Shield of David.  King Solomon, who became ruler in 970 BCE, had a ring he believed brought him luck, which carried the image of the same 6-point star, now better known as the Star of David.  His signet ring was believed to control demons and spirits.

As the time of the birth of Jesus approached, people saw something extremely bright in the skies, which some called simply, “the Star of the East”.  One theory is that they saw a conjunction of a planet and a star, together appearing as a dazzlingly bright single star.  Whatever the rare celestial event was, wise men somehow followed it to Bethlehem, to meet and honor their awaited Messiah as a newborn infant.

Many later star symbols came into use in culture and religion.  A Celtic 8-point star represents the 8 holy days, or seasons, such as Yule on December 20th to 22d and Midsummer on June 19th to 22d. A star-and-crescent became an Islamic symbol, and the Star of Lakshmi became a Hindu symbol associated with the goddess Lakshmi. A dimensional pentacle became the Druze star of that religion.  Stars showed up adorning the covers of holy and precious books and in many forms of jewelry, such as amulets and rings.  Stars have appeared many times in artwork and on flags.

The heavenly stars have been used for navigation, permitting the expansion of world exploration and trade by the Vikings, the Portuguese, and others. The stars have also been used for prophecy, in Chinese and European horoscope systems, and in predictive card techniques such as Tarot.  Songs have been written about them. In recent decades, humans have built machines that allowed them to leave the Earth and actually fly among the stars.

Today, people are still fascinated by stars, to the extent that they even see “star quality” in other people.  The media speak of “stars of stage, screen, and television”, meaning popular and well-paid actors and actresses.  We speak of someone being “a rising star”.  An extremely accomplished performer can even get a star symbol installed, in their name, in the Hollywood Walk of Fame.  Instead of being looked up to, a star performer can now be “walked all over” on Hollywood Boulevard.

So stars have been admired, imagined, worn, and steered-by.  “Star quality” has been projected onto performers and leaders.  And finally, stars have been brought to Earth to be walked on.  Perhaps it’s time to start this cycle again.  Are you moved by the stars?  Why not pull up a comfortable chair and watch the stars revolve in the Heavens?  Think of early shepherds watching the night sky, and feel what they must have felt.  Feel your connection to the Oneness of all human time and experience.   And when you go in, take that timeless peace with you in your heart.  That is Peace Within.

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. Both that book and Peace Within are available through her office.  Just email books@kebba.com. 
  • For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .

 

 

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