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Upbeat Spiritual Living: Are You Watering Flowers or Weeds?

January 22, 2017

© 2017 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

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If you have a flower garden, you naturally plan to be watering the flowers; but would you think it somehow right to be watering weeds that pop up as well?  I first heard this question from one of my most treasured mentors, over 20 years ago.  Four-foot-ten on a tall day, Mary Burmeister looked like a female version of a timeless Japanese sage.  Mary was a Japanese American who brought Jin Shin Jyutsu® to the United States decades ago, at the request of her Japanese master teacher, Jiro Murai. She was most often expressionless as she taught, and this phrase almost slipped by us:  “Do you really want to nurture WEEDS?”

Jin Shin Jyutsu is an energy balancing art which reveals layers of self-knowledge as we observe disharmonies in the body-mind-heart-spirit system, and then as we balance away pains and discomforts.  So at this pivotal moment, Mary was talking about relationships and projects.  She was making the point that there are some things or “friends” we have taken on that actually drain us.  And our game should be to have as much well-balanced energy as possible, for our spirit, our body, and our happy and healthy emotions.  Let’s imagine for 5 minutes that our life is a garden, and the beauty and order and vitality of it—its very radiance—is dependent on how we  take care of it. In a physical garden, we expect to be watering the flowers and we do not expect to be watering weeds.  Of course not!  We trim our garden plants regularly and we expect to remove the weeds.  It’s healthy to remove the weeds.  We want all the good water and nutrients to serve the flowers, not the weeds.  So let’s take this into our lives.

Is there, for example, a committee you serve on, where you always leave weary and frustrated?  Your membership on that committee may be a weed in the garden of your life.  Ask yourself if it should be removed.  Is there a large piece of furniture in your dining room that you don’t love, but you have been keeping just because a relative passed it to you?  If you would feel more free without it, find it another home, because it is a weed in the garden of your life.  You are watering weeds by keeping such items.  Pull the weed and enjoy your space and rebounding energy.  And is there a person who calls you regularly just to complain about people and interactions and politics and anything at all?  If you are tolerating this tiring, depleting relationship, you are watering weeds. Start being too busy to take their calls, and you will have pulled the weed.

You must be kind to yourself to stay healthy and balanced!  Consider what to nurture in the garden of your life.  It’s up to you.  And that’s Upbeat Spiritual Livingsm!


  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and award-winning author.  She also is an ordained minister and has a natural healing practice. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (,and Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. That book and Peace Within are available through her office.  Just email    or phone 480-250-1177.  
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