UpBeat Spiritual Living: Forgiving Others
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So what is in your heart today? I’ll wait. … … Are you feeling cranky, unhappy, satisfied, happy with everything and everyone? If you’re not sure what’s in your heart today, go get your journal, ask yourself the question again, and start writing. Still stuck? Look at the most adorable pet you own or have ever seen, and try again. Is your heart stuck, or is your heart open and flowing God’s love for adorable pets, fresh bread, lovely gardens, 75 degrees and blue skies, and even our fellow man/people?
If your heart is not open and flowing, what’s stuck in there? Do you disapprove of someone’s actions? Did someone say something unfair about you? Does someone act in hurtful ways toward you or your child, routinely? Does someone owe you money? Do you owe someone money and you’re feeling guilty? Are you late completing a project, and you’re feeling ashamed or inadequate? Are you generally resentful of happy people or those more “successful” than you? If you’re happy and satisfied and appreciative, you’re set. If you’re resentful, angry, and dissatisfied, these feelings are a burden to you, and not to the people you’re thinking about.
Saint Augustine of Hippo said,
Resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies.
If you are often nagged by thoughts of a particular person and bothered by their choices, they are living rent-free in your brain. You are the only one who can choose to evict this person from your brain, especially if they never asked to be living there rent-free anyway. Someone I know of has been dating a convicted felon; how does your heart feel about that? The man is convicted of sexual offenses against a youthful female. How does your heart feel about that? The woman teaches children. Now how does your heart feel? My heart had some challenges with this one. I felt heavy and stuck for some time. Now I realize that’s not my job. My job is to let it go and let God do God’s job: managing others. I need to bless and release my own feelings as well as that situation. Of course I can pray for the highest and best there.
Someone has owed me money for a long time, hundreds borrowed for a project years ago. I now believe he will never pay me. However, sometimes I think of that money and how it would now be equivalent to thousands, with the accumulated interest. My heart feels heavy when I think of it. Sometimes, when I think of this man and feel that resentment, I work on forgiveness and release—again. We are done forgiving and releasing when we have no attachments to those memories.
Jesus told us to pray what we now call The Lord’s Prayer (Matt. 6:9-13). This prayer contains the line: “and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors”, or the broader translation, “and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.” So our wrongs will be forgiven in proportion to the forgiveness we offer others, who may or may not “owe” us.
Are you holding something in your heart that needs to be forgiven? Pray about that, journal about that, and release that. You will be releasing yourself and energizing your faith. Your Peace Within will rise. Why not work on that now? It’s your life.
And that’s Upbeat Spiritual Livingsm.
- Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and award-winning author. She also is an ordained minister and has a natural healing practice. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br),and Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. That book and Peace Within are available through her office. Just email email@example.com or phone 480-250-1177.
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