Are You The Same Person You Were Then?
© 2015 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM. World Rights Reserved.
There have been so many changes in each of our lives. As an adult, are you living quite differently than you were as a child? You are probably living much more independently, making all your own decisions, and deciding on your own décor. You probably are choosing what you eat and when, as well as what church, if any, to go to.
When I was about 12, I was at a pajama party with a dozen friends, and the mom-hostess had some very interesting games for us. Among other things, she asked us “are you the same person you were?” Gasp! I was thinking, “I’m only 12!” And the question has stuck with me ever since. What makes us “who we are”, anyway?
Many times in adulthood, I have been in conversation about nature vs. nurture, and God-given nature vs. environmental influence. Gifted with an unusual memory, recently I was musing about something from Junior High days, and I could not remember the name of the key person in the story. I was thrilled! My brain let go of something!
However, then I tried to remember my motives in that Junior High story. I did something I would now think was dumb. Why did I do what I did? What were my thoughts and feelings? Well, I couldn’t remember at all. It was like I was trying to understand someone else, not me. I believe I am now a different person than I was then. Even with the person I was in college days: I cannot understand that past self or second-guess her. The best I can say now is that the person I was then did that or said that. I would rather be the person I am now, by far.
I recently heard Christian speaker/author Joyce Meyer talking about this phenomenon. She said the person she was died in Christ years ago. She almost remembers that person she was, like remembering another person. I am sure Joyce would by far rather be the person she is now.
The Bible offers this, in Isaiah 43:18-19 (NKJV):
Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
When you have memories of acting dumb in the past, forgive your former self. Don’t stress about it. Be joyful at how much you have grown. Be grateful for the new roads God is making for you in the wilderness. Change is good. You are good. Give thanks.
- Kebba Buckley Button is an ordained minister. She also stress management expert and has a natural healing practice. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. Both that book and Peace Within are available through her office. Just email firstname.lastname@example.org.
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